“I keep remembering one of my Guru’s teachings about happiness. She says that people universally tend to think that happiness is a stroke of luck, something that will maybe descend upon you like fine weather if you’re fortunate enough.
But that’s not how happiness works. Happiness is the consequence of personal effort. You fight for it, strive for it, insist upon it, and sometimes even travel around the world looking for it. You have to participate relentlessly in the manifestations of your own blessings. And once you have achieved a state of happiness, you must never become lax about maintaining it, you must make a mighty effort to keep swimming upward into that happiness forever, to stay afloat on top of it.
If you don’t you will eat away your innate contentment. It’s easy enough to pray when you’re in distress but continuing to pray even when your crisis has passed is like a sealing process, helping your soul hold tight to its good attainments.”― Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love
I love this quote and I really believe this to be true. I also believe that everyone has a true nature and that for some, being happy is harder to get to. But the optimist in me wants to believe that if you try hard enough, you can get to that place. It seems like everyone I speak to had an idea of what they thought happiness would equal at certain points in their lives and when faced with a different circumstance, you deal with a lot of emotions and yes there are tons of books that can give us some insite into this but it’s really hard to erase all those ideas that you have placed in your head as a child. It can be very disappointing. I suppose we all go through this and the truth is, those who we think seem to have it all, most likely don’t according to their own expectations.
Everyone has their own ways of getting to that happy place. My hairstylist says he reminds himself of less fortunate people here and all over the world and it immediately makes him grateful for what he has and the country he lives in. For some of us, as unfortunate as it it is to say, that simply isn’t enough.
For me, I very much do as the quote says above. I am very aware that my mind can take me to dark places so I am mindfull of it and participate in a multitude of things to keep me in a happy place. It is a 24 hour job to be and stay happy. Sometimes, it is a lonely place, but if you keep at it,..you will start to find and attract people everywhere you go who maintain this same 24hr job, and that is pretty wonderful! xo