Last week, I was searching for something to watch on Hulu and stumbled across this documentary called, Finding Happiness or something similar to that title. I read it aloud to my boyfriend and said, “hey, maybe we should watch this” his response was, “I’m already happy“. I thought for a second and could not come up with a clever response. I knew that there was an appropriate response,…but what was it?
Later that week, I was listening to a Buddhist lecture while I exercised and the answer came to me.
A big source of stress in our lives comes from holding on to the past. Instead of attaching ourselves to a great accomplishment of our past, often times we attach ourselves to a great failure of our past. So, in a sense, we let go of the things we should hold on to, and we hold on to the things that we should let go. When we continuously hold on to our past failures, abuse, hurt; we become prisoners of the past. It takes lots of practice to consistently let things go that bother us. I always think to myself and say, in 2 years, this will have been a small speck in my life and I will be disappointed in myself for having spent so much time dwelling on it. That usually pushes me along. And if I am really challenged, I remember this phrase, This Too Shall Pass, which from my research, is thought to be based on the bible verse below.
2 Corinthians 4: 17-18 “For our present troubles are small and won’t last very long. Yet they produce for us a glory that vastly outweighs them and will last forever. So we don’t look at the troubles we can see now; rather, we fix our gaze on things that cannot be seen. For the things we see now will soon be gone, but the things we cannot see will last forever.”
It’s only through wisdom that we learn to live in the moment. Now is where the future is made. But just as our challenges and adversities pass, so do our “Happy Moments”, which brings me back to my boyfriends statement, “I am already happy“. Happy is not a destination, it is a constant journey of cultivation. I have personally noticed that once I achieve a goal I have set and enjoyed that accomplishment, shortly after, I begin to think of what my next moment of accomplishment and joy will be.
“The Grass is Greener Where you Water it” If you are not nurturing and cultivating your mind, your love, your family, your career, your hobbies, your friendships, I doubt that they will remain happy. Everything great in life that you care about and want to continue, must be cultivated.
A pearl can take anymore from 5 – 20 years to cultivate and you guessed it, the longer it is cultivated, the more valuable it is. The more you nurture everything that matters to you, the more you will be rewarded with the same virtues. xo