5 simple ways to LOVE ourselves.
Embrace your flaws, work with them, improve them and make them the best looking flaws anyone has ever seen!! – no one is perfect and absolutely nothing is as it seems. Don’t ever fool yourself into thinking otherwise. A wise woman once told me as I frowned about a picture she had just taken of me. “You may not like this picture now, but in 10 years, you’re gonna love it”. Accept who you are because looks fade, but cultivating love and acceptance in your heart will be with you forever.
Take care of your Castle. I love this saying..and I truly consider my body my castle. I know some disease is inevitable but I’m certainly not going to give in to the grim reaper without a fight. I’m always reading, listening and participating in ways to improve my well being. I’ve been this way since I was about 18 yrs old, so for me it comes very natural at this point but I can assure you, it did not come from my parents. Although they aren’t overweight, neither is concerned about the best grains to eat or low fat diets and they never played sports or exercised. I cultivated this passion myself and I am constantly doing things to reinforce it. You too can cultivate a passion for a sport, hobby,..etc. to work on improving your castles, because the stronger they are, the more they will withstand and be able to fight off the tough battles.
Treat yourself. Now I may indulge in this step a bit more than I should 🙁 nevertheless, I think it is very important to be kind to yourself. Sometimes a little treat goes a long way whether it’s a piece of candy, a new dress, tickets to see a show, a museum visit or a new lense for your camera. It seems to me that sometimes a little pick me up can transform our mood and as a result open the door to positive thoughts and inspirations. So, I totally support a little indulgence here and there.
Set goals for yourself and follow through with them. I consider integrity one of the most important characteristics one can have. It’s not just about keeping your promises to others, it’s what you build inside as a result of keeping those promises. When you are true to your word, you develop as sense of honor, confidence and accountability. These are traits that will benefit you in every aspect of your life because the right people will recognize these qualities in you.
Don’t settle. Because you know how that saying by Maureen Dowd goes, “The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than what you settled for.”
This has certainly been my experience. You know that guy you dated way back when,…when you were young and inncocent to the ways of the world… well, he would say he was going to take you out and then never called. He would promise to do something special for your birthday and well, that just didn’t happen. We made all these excuses for these guys thinking it would pay off later because he would notice how understanding we were and how the next time he would really show us how much he appreciated us but it never happened. Well, that is the perfect example of settling for less than you deserve and getting even less. We can apply this to anything in our lives that we feel we have earned or deserve. If you feel in your heart that you deserve better, than you better fight for it because sitting right next to you could be a person who already figured out that they deserved it 20 minutes ago and snagged that opportunity.