I was talking with my special man (Brian) last night and he asked me if I’d ever read the letter George Carlin, the comedian wrote after his wife had passed. I hadn’t, but couldn’t wait to google it and read it.
In the letter, George Carlin talks about all the advancements we have made as humans, but he also talks about all the set backs we have either brought upon ourselves, or are still challenged with.
This is my favorite paragraph:
Remember to give a warm hug to the one next to you because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn’t cost a cent. Remember, to say, “I love you” to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you. Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again. Give time to love, give time to speak and give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.
It’s a beautiful letter and it’s bittersweet. Many of the things he mentions, are things we already know…and if you read it, you will say to yourself, “I know that“.. but knowing it and practicing it are completely different things.
I remember about 10 years ago, I took my mom to see Joel Osteen, the preacher from Texas at Madison Square Garden, NY. I had been watching Joel for a year or so, with my best friend Sally and it was something we did together that helped us stay positive when we were both going through challenging times. Neither one of us was super religious but we did believe that there was something powerful outside of us and it comforted us to know this. We just needed that little boost to remind us to keep marching along and I think that is key.
At MSG that day, my mom sat there in stiff mode and the entire time, she refused to receive his messages because in her mind, these were things she already knew. I tried to explain to her, it’s not about whether you know it or not, but that we all need reminders, affirmations. I know it’s hard to allow yourself to be vulnerable because it makes you feel weak and the word weak is such a negative word. But the truth is, the only way to grow is to be vulnerable, to admit that you don’t know everything, to admit that you could use a human boost every now and again. This is so hard for some people, fortunately, my mom has grown a lot since then and now we can openly talk about topics like this and reckon with them. Once you allow yourself to receive positive messages, it’s amazing how many wonderful things come your way from the most random places. I promise you, you will have better days.
That said, when Brian asked me to read this, ofcourse, I was anxious to receive his gesture and once I read it, it made me really happy, because although we are very different, he clearly knows what feeds my soul. It kinda reminds me of that quote by Toni Morrison, in her book Beloved, ‘She is a friend of my mind. She gather me, man. The pieces I am, she gather them and give them back to me in all the right order.’
Brian may not exactly put all the pieces in the right order.. 🙂 but by asking me to read this letter, I do feel, that he is a friend of my mind and that makes me happy. Message received! xo
I think you could probably find the entire letter in a few different places, but I found it here: