I came across this quote and I thought it was a very non-selfish and beautiful way to look at the idea of losing someone. And well, I am always looking for beautiful and challenging ways of letting go of resentment and other feelings that I don’t need! I think I might almost be there, but alas, there is always more to learn.
It’s always hard letting someone go that we have loved but it’s also hard letting someone go that we had a whole lot of like for because unless the ending was mutual, most of the time, one of you is left with the longing of what could have been. Whatever the reason is that this union ended, we cannot tell the heart to just move on. It just doesn’t work like that. As we get older, we understand that there is more to a match than a hot steamy make out session.
But here’s a thought….
How wonderful would it be if we were able to, and I know this is stretching it, but if we were to sort of pleasingly accept that someone we loved, will now be in a better place or be in a better position or be happier and that we could honor our sadness but honestly be happy for them.
How can we let go and move forward.
It is ok to mourn the loss of a relationship but don’t let fear force you to hold on to something that you should let go. Don’t allow yourself to be a victim but instead be empowered. This is a very important time in your life because the minute you decide that you aren’t going to settle for less than you deserve, is the minute you become a stronger and empowered person with a healthier sense of self worth. I promise you that all of these qualities bring your closer to finding a compatible mate. Break ups happen for many reasons, so at the same time, understand that the other person is also on their own path and are themselves being pulled in many directions as they navigate this life as well. Develop compassion for yourself and develop compassion for them for no one who allows themselves to love is protected from a broken heart at some point in their life. For what is the purpose of life after all, if not to love.
Quote above is from, Mitch Albom’s, The Five People You Meet in Heaven
Inspired by a tremendous heartbreak. No amount of wisdom can prevent a heart from hurting but it can provide you with a sense of understanding and ability to apply the lessons you have learned through the years.