A couple of years ago, when I still lived in NY, there were many instances when I gave someone the power to upset me. I was fully aware that my getting upset made no sense because this person did not even know me but yet I still could not deny that I let his words hurt me. I was feeling a little bummed as I walked to the Monday Buddhist meditation lecture, but I almost knew that the teacher would say something, even if it was a little something…that would make me feel better.
Anyway, the teacher put a name to something I knew existed but could not identify by definition but I always felt was the case when a person acted this way. What I am referring to is deluded pride versus wisdom pride.
You know the value of every article of merchandise, but if you don’t know the value of your own soul, it’s all foolishness. – Rumi
Wisdom Pride vs. Deluded Pride.
Wisdom pride, as I understand it…is pride based on wisdom. For example, I know not to do certain things and may give you advice, not because I know it all but because I have done something similar and learned from my mistakes, and would if possible, like to spare you the hurt, pain and disappointment associated with this action. You should feel a sense of pride when you have accomplished something fully knowing that you have done your very best. Wisdom pride has the best intentions.
Deluded pride is the sense of entitlement one feels when they put value on things outside of oneself. It’s the arrogant manner and mistreatment of others based on the illusion that having these “superficial qualities” entitles one to be above another.
The quote I have included below explains deluded pride very well.
‘I got this today,’ they say ‘tomorrow I shall get that. This wealth is mine, and that will be mine too. I have destroyed my enemies. I shall destroy others too am I not like God I enjoy what I want. I am successful. I am powerful. I am happy. I am rich and well-born. Who is equal to me I will perform sacrifices and give gifts, and rejoice in my own generosity.’
This is how they go on, deluded by ignorance. Bound by their greed and entangled in a web of delusion, whirled about by a fragmented mind, they fall into a dark hell. Self-important, obstinate, swept away by the pride of wealth, they ostentatiously perform sacrifices without any regard for their purpose. Egotistical, violent, arrogant, lustful, angry, envious of everyone, they abuse my presence within their own bodies and in the bodies of others. – Bhagavad-Gita
The sum of me can never be measured by anything outside of me. – VC
We will never be able to control every aspect of our lives and plan every person we encounter. The only way we can prepare ourselves is to be mindful of the above and to not let these kinds of situations ruin our days and nights. When your self worth is based on things outside of you, you will always be seeking, searching, upgrading. It’s a constant insatiable urge that you have to fill a void. Quite honestly, that is just very exhausting, expensive and time consuming. I have been there. So, when you encounter someone like this, try to have compassion because a life of insatiable searching for your self worth is a very sad, long and lonely life. So, take a deep breath, send them a silent blessing and walk away.
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Images above were taken by me at Massengale Park on St. Simons Island, GA. Model is the gorgeous Chibuzoa Aguocha. Chewey is modeling my beadwork.
Vanilla Clouds is sold at Infuse Yoga here on the island and I am also selling on Etsy in my shop. All my work is handmade and unique(so no two are alike).