“If you’re brave enough to risk…to temporarily live outside of your comfort zone for a short period of time, your big enough to win!”-Walt Whitman
When I read this line, I thought…wow, such a simple thought, but the reality is, that it’s not so simple to live out of your comfort zone. We all have our crutches, our safety nets, our habits, our defense mechanisms to keep us in a place we built to keep us safe. But safe doesn’t always help you grow, it doesn’t help you relate to other people and it certainly doesn’t help you learn to overcome your obstacles. I am not saying that you need to be this huge adventure seeker, but having an open mind will at least expose you to new ideas, new experiences, opportunities and choices.
There are so many things that scare me and I have no idea why and I’m super embarrassed to even share some of them. So, if you have ever thought this, please know you are not alone. Every time we push ourselves to do something that scares us, gives us anxiety, makes us nervous, we are winning. When I push myself, I also know that I am building healthy pride, integrity and self respect. All of these things will help me face life’s challenges just a little bit better.
When you do what you set out to do, that injured little soul inside you gets stronger, your inner score card gets more points 🙂
It doesn’t happen overnight and to be honest, new fears will continue to pop up as you continue to live outside of your comfort zone. So, be kind to yourself and be patient with those around you because we all have fears we struggle with that we would never admit to for fear of being shamed.
Sometimes I have found myself pushing a friend to take a chance that to me is an obvious opportunity but to them is very frightening. I have to remind myself that we are all on our own path and we are all fighting our own inner battles. I certainly don’t like it when I’m pushed. It doesn’t mean that I will give up on that friend, it just means that I won’t attach any expectations to the advice I give her. I will support her and continue to plant seeds of goodness, encourage her and empower her. Every little bit helps.
So, talk yourself into taking a baby step when no ones looking. Push yourself even when your scared and I promise you, you will make yourself so proud and that is one of the best feelings to have. xo
Images above were taken by me on St.Simons Island this past week. The model is my friend Chibuzo Aguocha 🙂 I’m so lucky to have all these beautiful souls to pose for me!! More to come. xo