I am committed to having better days and some day, I hope to be a treasure chest of wisdom but as I’ve learned and shared in past posts, everything in life must be cultivated if you want it to be better or to continue on the right path. However you cultivate it, is subjective to what truly inspires you. But there are days when I create my own prison and don’t even realize it. Do you?
You escape from a prison by deciding that you want to be there. When I first heard this phrase by Ajan Braham (google him :)) I thought, what? Why would I choose to be in a prison and how could choosing to be in my prison theoretically allow me to escape? Well it takes a lot of spiritual guidance to get to this point or even to understand this point. I am still grasping it myself.
Scenario 1: I come home, seemingly in a good mood expecting my significant other to know where I am coming from mentally and what I would like him to say. He of course is in his own frame of mind and says something completely different from what I want him to say. Albeit, sometimes our partners can say things that are insensitive in a very innocent way, nonetheless, we take offense to it because we don’t want to see it in that innocent way. It’s almost as if I am choosing to be offended, hence, creating my own prison.
Why would I do this? I asked myself this one day after a terrible fight with the person who’s heart I cherish. All I could come up with was,..there must have been a bad experience in my mind that I am trying to recreate to keep me suffering. It’s as if I am fighting against myself. When things become difficult, our first instinct is to run away from this fight, to in a sense “escape the prison” because it feels absolutely awful. But what if we are tired of running, then in this case, we decide to be there. I decide to fight through the uncomfortable feeling. I decide to swallow my pride, push my ego aside because I want to understand why this fight happened. You escape from a prison by deciding that you want to be there.
Never believe you have to be comfortable to be free. There is always going to be a rough phase right before your period of epic growth. Much of life you cannot change, but you have a chance of being free if you change your attitude and this is something you can certainly change.
The images above were taken at Jekyll Island, GA.