Ever thought to yourself, why would anyone work at a cancer clinic and face the inevitable imagined daily sadness one must feel knowing some relationships we build will eventually end at least in the physical form.
Ever thought how someone could work with mentally handicapped children. Caring for their simple needs as well as their not so simple needs all the while treating them as though they were completely capable. How hard it is to disguise the sadness in your eyes. I for sure am not good at this but I recognize the strength in those that are.
Ever wondered how hard it is to be a drug counselor or therapist. To always find the fine line between support and enabling. The patience it must take to constantly remain neutral when someone slips and falls off the wagon, as they say. To practice non judgement and to continue to deliver a strong methodology as well as show empathy. To keep yourself afloat when at times, the stress of their problems overwhelms you and challenges your own personal discipline.
People who are really good at these roles understand that you need to be able to put yourself in their shoes and hone the ability to see yourself, the way they would and need to see you so that you can identify how you can help them. Complex… It’s a big challenge and certainly an unselfish challenge. To understand what a cancer patient, an addict, a depressed person needs to see in order to grasp even a little hope in your eyes requires a strong human and emotional connection. It’s quite a beautiful ability. Seeing yourself in their shoes, is also an opportunity for you to be humbled and perhaps appreciate the blessings in your own life.
Many many times, when I was less wise…I often thought to myself ….why would anyone choose to do such a hopeless, and at times, unbearably sad job. Then I read an article one day which put into words what we all probably already know. We all have gifts and those who take on these hard jobs, do those jobs, because they can. It is a gift to be able to walk the fine line between detachment and empathy/compassion and if this is your gift, it behooves you to share it. It doesn’t mean that you are indestructible, for all of us need to feed our souls and refuel, it is part of honoring ourselves and our gifts. xo
Images above are of a shoot I did with Chibuzoa Aguocha and she is modeling some of my jewelry 🙂 visit my shop section to see the latest jewels I’ve made xo