Escaping the prison you created….

I am committed to having better days and some day, I hope to be a treasure chest of wisdom but as I’ve learned and shared in past posts, everything in life must be cultivated if you want it to be better or to continue on the right path.  However you cultivate it, is subjective to what truly inspires you.  But there are days when I create my own prison and don’t even realize it.  Do you? SONY DSC

You escape from a prison by deciding that you want to be there.  When I first heard this phrase by Ajan Braham (google him :)) I thought, what? Why would I choose to be in a prison and how could choosing to be in my prison theoretically allow me to escape?  Well it takes a lot of spiritual guidance to get to this point or even to understand this point.  I am still grasping it myself.SONY DSC SONY DSC

Scenario 1: I come home, seemingly in a good mood expecting my significant other to know where I am coming from mentally and what I would like him to say.  He of course is in his own frame of mind and says something completely different from what I want him to say.  Albeit, sometimes our partners can say things that are insensitive in a very innocent way, nonetheless, we take offense to it because we don’t want to see it in that innocent way.  It’s almost as if I am choosing to be offended, hence, creating my own prison. SONY DSC

Why would I do this? I asked myself this one day after a terrible fight with the person who’s heart I cherish.  All I could come up with was,..there must have been a bad experience in my mind that I am trying to recreate to keep me suffering.  It’s as if I am fighting against myself.  When things become difficult, our first instinct is to run away from this fight, to in a sense “escape the prison” because it feels absolutely awful.   But what if we are tired of running, then in this case, we decide to be there.  I decide to fight through the uncomfortable feeling. I decide to swallow my pride, push my ego aside because I want to understand why this fight happened.  You escape from a prison by deciding that you want to be there. SONY DSC

Never believe you have to be comfortable to be free.   There is always going to be a rough phase right before your period of epic growth. Much of life you cannot change, but you have a chance of being free if you change your attitude and this is something you can certainly change. SONY DSCSONY DSC

The images above were taken at Jekyll Island, GA.


Making your house, your home….

Inside:What if we had never met?
I’ve been doing a little research on the importance of making your house, or apartment, your home.  By this I mean, making it someplace you want to come home to, a place that is symbolic of you, a place that makes you feel good deep inside.  A place that when you wake up, you actually smile and think to yourself, this feels beautiful.   I always aim to make my place feel this way,..having a spiritual connection to my surroundings is very important to me.  Having a place that nurtures my talents, needs and goals has become an essential part of my life.   So, if you are like me…and your house is your home or you want to make it your home.  Here are some tips, I’ve lifted from Oprah’s site:
Oprah says there are 3 rules that should guide you when making your house your own:
1. Everything you own should have value, either because it’s functional or beautiful or you just love it. I fally prey to this often. I’m a super impulse buyer and if I feel somethings speaks to my nature, I immediately want to buy it, even if I have no space for it, or have too much of the same, etc.. I’t becomes harder when you’re the kind of person that has many interests.  I was always very crafty, so by the time I had hit my mid-twenties, I had sewing crafts, painting tools, jewelry making gadgets, how to books on everthing, etc.  Through the years, I have toned down my impulsiveness thankfully and now just focus on one kind of art at a time although there is a large trunk under my bed filled with a few things I have not been able to part with. 🙂
2. Every item needs a place where it “lives.”   I think this is super important and I am definitely guilty of this especially with my mail.  I do know that when I spend an extra 10 minutes hanging things up, sorting the mail, doing the dishes, picking up random things I’ve tossed around during the week, I feel so much more at peace.  I almost feel like I have it together, and if someone happened to come by, they would be impressed with my place’s tidy appearance 🙂  Afterall, your place is a representation of you..and if you’re living in a cluttered place, there’s a chance that you might portray this to the outside world as well in some way or another.  It may not necessarily physically, but perhaps in the choices you make or the way you process things.  It’s something to think about.
3. Focus on one thing at a time.   We have all probably been guilty of this,..we start one project, get can’t afford to finish, get distracted, then begin another project, stop that, go back to the first, etc.   Having uncompleted projects creates clutter and is just all around unsettling.  It’s important to see things from start to finish, it builds a sense of accomplishment within you.   Luckily, this is one trait I am not too bad at.  I try and set tangible goals so that I can get them done.  It’s probably my impatience that doesn’t allow me to leave things undone, but in these cases, I think my impatience may be helpful.
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