Ever thought to yourself, why would anyone work at a cancer clinic and face the inevitable imagined daily sadness one must feel knowing some relationships we build will eventually end at least in the physical form.
Ever thought how someone could work with mentally handicapped children. Caring for their simple needs as well as their not so simple needs all the while treating them as though they were completely capable. How hard it is to disguise the sadness in your eyes. I for sure am not good at this but I recognize the strength in those that are.
Ever wondered how hard it is to be a drug counselor or therapist. To always find the fine line between support and enabling. The patience it must take to constantly remain neutral when someone slips and falls off the wagon, as they say. To practice non judgement and to continue to deliver a strong methodology as well as show empathy. To keep yourself afloat when at times, the stress of their problems overwhelms you and challenges your own personal discipline.
Even the simple task as being a good and supportive friend is no easy job. To put your own thoughts and needs aside and allow someone else’s world to be your own, even for just a minute, is not easy.
People who are really good at these roles understand that you need to be able to put yourself in their shoes and hone the ability to see yourself, the way they would and need to see you so that you can identify how you can help them. Complex… It’s a big challenge and certainly an unselfish challenge. To understand what a cancer patient, an addict, a depressed person needs to see in order to grasp even a little hope in your eyes requires a strong human and emotional connection. It’s quite a beautiful ability. Seeing yourself in their shoes, is also an opportunity for you to be humbled and perhaps appreciate the blessings in your own life.
Many many times, when I was less wise…I often thought to myself ….why would anyone choose to do such a hopeless, and at times, unbearably sad job. Then I read an article one day which put into words what we all probably already know. We all have gifts and those who take on these hard jobs, do those jobs, because they can. It is a gift to be able to walk the fine line between detachment and empathy/compassion and if this is your gift, it behooves you to share it. It doesn’t mean that you are indestructible, for all of us need to feed our souls and refuel, it is part of honoring ourselves and our gifts. xo
Images above are of a shoot I did with Chibuzoa Aguocha and she is modeling some of my jewelry 🙂 visit my shop section to see the latest jewels I’ve made xo
This morning on my run, lots of ideas were popping into my head, which is why I love running so much. I felt an overwhelming emotion of thanks but the thanks I felt was actually directed towards myself.
I was thanking myself for practicing patience over a situation that happened months ago. The scenario had just popped into my head…I guess that was my subconscious telling me that I needed some sort of closure or reckoning. It was a small situation I had with someone that really challenged me to remain neutral and not take the actions of the other person so personal and be offended. It was a conversation that challenged my ongoing conscious effort of having a peaceful, patient and compassionate heart. Clearly it’s not easy, as it took me a couple of months to calm down and to realize not reacting was the right thing to do. But I can assure you that had I reacted, I would have felt tremendous guilt because eventually, I would have had time to think about the fact that we are all fighting our own demons and although I may have a bit of a head start on mine, we are all not at the same pace or place in our journey.
So, just as I should have patience for myself in my growth, having patience for those around me is also important as they too are fighting demons.
I don’t think anyone consciously wants to sabotage their own future and the relationships around them, but it is an obstacle some of us are fighting in our journeys. So, when I really think about it, that small disruption in my day, was not about me, it was about that person and their ongoing journey. The best that I can do, is to let it go and keep myself on my own path of progress.
Choosing to keep someone in your life who continually chooses to make decisions that keep them in a downward cycle of life(when they themselves admit this) is another topic of discussion. The world is filled with angels, and some are strictly gifted in lifting others up. It’s not an easy job and we all have our strengths, but at the very least, we can provide a bit of patience and compassion to those around us and just opt to remain quiet until we have the strength to respond in a better way.
Patience is one of the best gifts we can teach ourselves and it is also one of the best gifts we can give to others.
Images above were taken at the John Gilbert Trail in St.Simons Island, GA. I added a cooling photo filter for a moody affect in photoshop!