There were times in my life when I encountered someone who had such a strong sense of confidence and I will admit, part of me was quite envious. Sometimes, that pride made perfect sense to me, and sometimes, it was confusing to me because it seemed unearned and and kind of a non-virtuous pride.
I was quite Naive as a young girl, but I certainly knew the difference between working hard and earning something and getting things by taking advantage of a situation. Earning it seemed the more noble method to me, the other was just plain lazy.
“Never dull your shine for somebody” Tyra Banks
I love writing this quote because I know that many of us have done this at some point in our lives, i.e., faded into the background, dulled our strengths so that someone else could shine.
I’ve learned along the way, that we build character through challenge, experiences and adversities. These experiences build in us a sense of accomplishment, and a sense of worth but I suppose they could also build in us a sense of entitlement, resentment and fear. If what we experience is the latter, the key would be to convert this experience into something positive. How do we do this? It’s as simple as being at peace with not getting a job you applied to and believing that there must be a better suited position out there for you.. or that you need to step up your game in interviews. See what I did? I just made a negative situation something positive and now I can focus on the next interview as opposed to dwelling on this one. Maybe not so simple?? The idea behind this thinking is to empower yourself with the belief that you can personally change your behavior and thus receive more pleasing results in the future.
How can I convert this experience into something positive.
This kind of conversion is evident in the drug treatment centers when the drug counselor is a recovering addict themselves. No one could ever know the feeling of being addicted unless you yourself had experienced this and so, how powerful it is to be able to say to someone, I know how you feel, but it gets better, you can get better. This is what it means to convert your adversity to something positive.
When you feel good about yourself,..you try even harder to do those things that bring happiness.
What I have noticed along my journey, is that it is so important to go after things in life, because even if you don’t accomplish your goal or you don’t get what you want, there is something about that journey that affects you. It is up to you to convert it.
When you refuse praise yourself,..you are discouraging your spirit and thus losing this wonderful opportunity to encourage more of the same.
So, next time someone compliments you, accept it, say thank you and let that seed grow and bloom inside you. Create a garden for more seeds to grow and bloom. Be humble but confident in what you bring to this world…and quoting a friend of mine who gave me this same pep talk a few weeks ago,..Be proud, of what you accomplish, you earned your Stripes.
Images above were taken near the King and Prince Hotel and on the beach on St. Simons Island.